Masturbation
Masturbation is so important to me. I have great difficulty having an orgasm when I'm having sex with someone – it's often so frustrating – masturbation is my release of that frustration.
It took me a long time to learn to love myself but part of that was making love with myself – masturbating without fantasy or merely seeing people as sex objects. I feel really miserable after coming now, if I've objectified.
Safe-sex codes are helping me to reclaim masturbation as great stuff, not just the bottom of the hierarchy of sexual practices.
I've been masturbating since I was a little kid. I didn't realise what I was doing. I just used to hang onto things, like the door and rub against them. It was a good way to relax. My parents never made me feel bad about it. Only our babysitters objected.
Through masturbation I learned more about myself and what I liked sexually, without having to worry about the other person. And it made me realise the potential for having sexual relationships with other women.
Masturbation was my first sexual experience. It is something I enjoy and it lets me use my imagination to full effect. Scenes I play in my head never quite work out so well in real life. But all fantasy is like that.
The orgasm from wanking is different to being with a partner. Comparison is difficult. With a partner there is hugging and intimacy which is at least as important as the climax.
I get the best orgasms from wanking, especially if someone else is helping. Intercourse is a real let-down for me when it comes to orgasm.