A FINAL WORD

Finally, here's what we particularly want you to know:

Anyone who isn't exclusively heterosexual, lesbian or gay may call themselves bisexual – in other words anyone can be bisexual 'enough'.

There are enormous numbers of bisexuals in the world – probably over one third of the population – but most do not call themselves bisexual yet. We are all sorts of individuals; there is no bisexual 'type'.

Because of the effect of oppression, most of us bisexuals have internalised a message that 'I, as a bisexual, don't belong'. So, if you are our friends, please welcome us as we are into whichever group you belong to, and this will help us overcome our oppression.

For our part, as bisexuals, we need to communicate more so that bisexuality is more public and people get to know us face to face as individuals and not as a label to be oppressed. We need to inform people so that awareness and understanding replace the fear of bisexuality which arises from people's own emotional blocks against what they cannot handle or dislike in themselves. A growing bisexual network can help us overcome oppression so that liberation at both the personal and wider political level is progressively achieved.

'I think 'coming out' is terribly important, not only for lesbian, gay or bisexual people as individuals but also because, unless we come out as who and what we are, unless we show that we are not ashamed of our sexuality, that there's nothing to hide, unless we do that, the heterosexual majority is going to assume that our sexuality is something not to be talked about. I think they take their cue very much from us. If you are confident about who you are and what you are, if you are relaxed about it, then other people will think: oh well, it must be alright.'

Stephanie Norris


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